Excited by my own chakra reiki healing session and inspired by a book called Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn and the newly popular concept of Conscious Parenting coined by Dr. Shefali, I'd like to propose the idea of unconditional re-parenting. By that I mean becoming a parent to your INNER CHILD and give way to healing of old childhood wounds. It is never too late to meet the needs that have not been met by your primary caregivers while growing up. Instead of falling into the trap of reward and punishment, I propose that we make allowances for the traditionally perceived 'bad boy/bad girl' behaviour and hold ourselves in the space of unconditional love nonetheless. How have you been re-parenting yourself? Look at your life and examine the emotions that get stirred up within you each time you interact with authorities, any people who don't accept you, or your romantic partners. What situations bring you rage, shame, or confusion? What makes you withdraw your love? Feelings of unworthiness may have gone unnoticed for too long. The good news is that when you start acting intentionally in alignment with the feeling of being unconditionally loved for who you are, you can create a new pattern and experiences that empower you. Consciously reparenting yourself will help you blossom and improve your relationships... We heal the inner child by letting it be itself, beautiful, free and curious. No one learns they're worthy by punishment for their rebellious behaviour. I believe that we are good when we're given the chance at being loved for who we are.
With Love, Pavlina